EP 48 - Stop Telling People What to Do — And Start Hearing What They’re Really Saying

Hi Shiny Mind,

Have you ever felt the urge to jump in, correct someone, give advice, or steer them toward what you believe is “right”?
I know this pattern intimately—because I used to do it, too.

We think we’re helping.
We think we’re caring.
We think we’re offering wisdom.

But what we’re actually doing…
is interrupting the other person’s truth.

Every time we rush to tell someone what to do, we unconsciously send a message:
“I trust my perspective more than I trust your ability to find your own.”

At The Academy of Neuro-Shine Technology™, we call this autopilot communication—patterns that speak for you without your awareness.
Advice-giving is one of the most common ones.

It comes from old programs.
Old survival strategies.
Old emotional needs.

But awareness sets you free.

When you pause…
when you breathe…
when you listen without attaching your meaning…

You finally hear what the person is really saying.
Their fear.
Their longing.
Their confusion.
Their hope.

And you also hear something even more important:
your own internal noise.

That’s where transformation begins.

When you stop inserting yourself into someone else’s story, you create space for connection, compassion, and true emotional intelligence.

This episode of The Shiny Minds Show invites you to slow down, examine your patterns, and elevate your communication so you can build relationships rooted in clarity, truth, and mutual respect.

Keep shining,

by Dr. Shiny Burcu Unsal ✨

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