Let's Talk about our emotions today... Specifically about the painful ones and what to do about them. As part of my training and coaching programs, I've had the privilege of serving thousands of people and explaining human psychology with NLP & Neuroscience. And today we'll shine a light on 3 reasons why we get hurt so that you become more aware and take charge of your emotions and the quality of your life.

If you're ready, let's go!

1. You Don't Get It

When people have a certain behavior, and you just don't get the psychology behind their behaviors. You don't get the context or the emotions or the needs that they have for that specific behavior to happen at that specific time. It might be because they need that certain emotion. It might be because they have a very clear reason why they need to say that at that certain time, when they do a certain behavior do doing it because they have an underlying need. They say something very blunt, and you go ahead and judge them. Don't do it, because you're not getting it, you are not the reason why they are doing it. Or you're not the person who is triggering it. It's totally in their own mindset. And it's totally about them.

2. You Take It Personal

Now that you understand that there is a positive intention, that intention is the need that they have for that specific behavior. I do want to remind you that it's not about you don't take it personal. If it wasn't you who was in front of them, when that behavior happened, well, there would have been somebody else, you know, they might have done the same thing to somebody else. So that makes you in the equation zero like you have no effect in that behavior. Do you get it? So it's not about you do not take it personal. So you get hurt because you take it personal

3. You Generalize

You look at one pattern, and you look at another pattern. And just two patterns are enough for you to generalize something and put a label on it. And when you put a label on something, you are absolutely deleting the context behind it. You're deleting the reasons and explanations and logic behind it. And you're literally limiting and creating that limiting belief inside of you, especially if you don't bring up the subject and have a decent adult and advanced conversation around it.

So there you have it, my three reasons why you get hurt. So I hope from now on, you're going to be more aware about what's going on, you're not going to take things personal, you're going to gather more information before you snap into judgments. And of course, if you liked this video, please like it and share it with your friends. And of course subscribe to my channel for more videos like this so that you can maximize your potential and you and I we can create a better world needs more love and shiny minds.

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by Shiny Burcu Unsal

P.S. If you would love to learn more about the language of emotional intelligence, you can click here.