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5 Components Of Emotional Intelligence  by Daniel Goleman, Shiny Unsal

5 Components Of Emotional Intelligence

Nov 17, 2022

Did you know that your heart sends more information to your brain than your brain sends to your heart?

Your heart is powerful. Your heart is wise. And this little piece of information is very important for you, because your brain is very useful when it comes to solving problems, analyzing and being creative; and yet, if you are too much in the head, you lose the wisdom of your heart.

Think about it, when you were born, you were just a heartbeat and you had all the wisdom you needed to become who you are today. Your brain developed later on. And if you are too much in the heart, then you might lose touch with your cognitive intelligence and that's also not good.

What do you need then? You need a great balance between these two.

That's why I created my Neuro-Shine Technology™ so that you could combine the power of your mind with the wisdom of your heart to maximize your potential and become very emotionally intelligent.

And now, we are going to talk about 5 components of emotional intelligence.


Self-awareness of your; 

  • Emotions
  • Thoughts
  • Language,
  • Behaviors
  • How do you show up with that facial expression?
  • Tonality, how does it sound? 
  • Mood - What do you say, when you are not in a good mood? 
  • How does your energy feel? Because people are going to pick up on your energy, even before you say anything.

And becoming aware of all of these things is your number one requirement to become more emotionally intelligent. 


I created a simple formula to create any change in your life; 

Change: Awareness x Willingness.

When you're aware of your emotions, what you need to do, you need to be willing to change them, to do something different and that begins with self-regulation. Regulating your thoughts, emotions, language, relationships, your time management, even how you pursue your dreams, your daily habits, it's really an amazing level of discipline. 

If you have that self-control then you are absolutely in the game of becoming a very emotionally intelligent individual.


The third component of emotional intelligence is about your certainty and how you find that faith inside of you, that says go. When everything goes wrong, when your life is on fire, when you feel like you cannot go on anymore, but you have so much faith, belief, courage, determination. And very interestingly you have your ego, why does your ego help you to become more motivated?

Because your ego is your self-esteem. If you can manage your ego and self-regulate it, you are going to tap into it. And you are going to get fired up to go after those goals and dreams and to your next levels because you're going to feel so alive.


Empathy is about what I call Level 2 and 3 listening in coaching. When you are a coach, you understand what is level 2, and level 3 listening.

When you know, a little bit about NLP, you understand, building rapport, you understand matching. And you understand that there is a correlation between how you use your brain and your brain waves and how it connects to your emotions through empathy.

Empathy is about using your prefrontal cortex and then integrating all of these parts of your brain together to understand what is truly going on with this person, what is it that I am picking up on? I know they are telling me something but their body language is telling me another thing.

The story is different, the energy shift is different. So, when you focus on empathy, you also need to understand that you need to accept people and match them where they are. And you need to also remember that Delta brainwaves are the source of empathy. 

Delta brainwaves, which means when you go to sleep at night, when you have a good night sleep, did you know that it pumps and actually improves your level of empathy? So, make sure you get a lot of rest.


How are you relating to others? How are you being friends with their amygdala? That is my expression.

You know people have this part of their brain which can be triggered easily. When they feel like they are being attacked, when you use a language that is nonviolent, when you use a language that is actually friends with that part of the brain and then you are being emotionally intelligent.

Actually there is a whole online course that I created about emotional intelligence language so that you can improve your level of emotional intelligence and go to next levels and you know, create some fun, use your humor be more of you bring more joy to whatever you are doing because that's what social skills are all about.

So, there where you have it, you have five components of emotional intelligence, by Daniel Goleman.

Made with love ❤️  for a better world, with more love ❤️  and #ShinyMinds .

by Shiny Burcu Unsal

P.S. If you would love to learn more about the language of emotional intelligence, you can click here.

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